So I have a cousin and even though we’re family I think I might hate her. At first I though it was just a phase and that she would grow out of it. it started out as being rude and doing things to get her way, then it changed. About 3 yrs ago, the first incident happened. She made me leave to “talk” to my sister, where she really just yelled at her until she was sobbing, and left her outside in the dark in a new neighborhood. she apologized later and said it was bc her foot hurt. more stuff like this has happened, worse even. I keep thinking she’ll mature but instead she just gets more toxic and manipulative. Last time we saw her, she made my sister lick the street. The worst part is she makes it look like me and my sister are the bad guys, and my aunt (her mom) and grandma won’t do anything. My grandma always sides with her and claims “we don’t know what it’s like to be her”. Idk but I rlly don’t know what to do.

I been thinking real hard about even relaying these awful things about the person that I have admired the most, the person I have respected and revered my whole life but that now, has completely backstabbed me in the worst way possible. A few years ago, a scandal broke in my political family involving my mother. As you can imagine, it nearly broke my marriage and tore my husband’s family apart. My sister in law found my father in law and my mom talking on social media. The worst part of it, when I was confronted, I was accused of knowing about the whole affair and made it looked like I was an accomplice to the whole ordeal. When I had absolutely no clue to such a disgusting mess. I don’t know what neither of them were trying to accomplish and now, I’m the black sheep of the family. No one talks to me. While my father in law is still loved and honored. My mother the home wrecker and I pay the sins of her ordeals. She never once has said I’m sorry. Never! In her head, I’m better off without that side of the family. But it’s not about that; why did she do this to me? Why my father in law? Among so many men? Why him! I guess I’m just looking for an explanation and I know I will never get it from her. Because she just cannot accept she did anything wrong. I wish I could get her version because as of now, I only know everyone else’s but her’s. I always thought I didn’t need to hear her side because it’s not my place to question her, but I have kids who now have to suffer for her sins as well. I don’t think it’s fair to them either. I guess the damage is done as well and the past is the past. I won’t get nothing accomplished but I just want an acknowledgment from her part that she messed up.

• August 12, 2023