One night I was really high biking around with my friends. It was supposed to be a really good night as we had just finished midterms and everything. After biking for some time, however, we managed to lose each other and I found myself biking along a path near my school. Before I knew it, a girl started speed walking right by me. I stopped my bike because I was super confused. It was around 1am that night and she looked pretty flustered like something bad was happening. I just didn’t like the feeling of it. A minute later, a guy dressed in black with jeans on started following her. It took me a minute to realize that something was definitely not right. He kept following her and once she disappeared he began to run after her. I didn’t know what to do and I was completely in shock. The shit that hit me the hardest was the look that she gave me as she was walking away. It looked like her eyes were begging me to help and I didn’t do shit. Whoever you are, I sincerely hope that you’re okay. I’m sorry I couldn’t help you that night. I will hold this against me for the rest of my life.

For years now I’m struggled with a problem regarding my love life. I’m a simp at heart and I wouldn’t change it for the world. I love finding someone to simp over and going through the talking stage and getting to know them better and even the excitement before getting to see them in person or around school. It’s exhilarating and I love the way my heart races or when I smile at their texts. I’m a hopeless romantic not because I’ve experienced much in real life but because my passion is reading romance novels. I read 2 to 5 full length romance books a week and I love it. My issue is that the second I discover or even feel like the person I’m simping over likes me back, I get crippling anxiety and I ghost them or friend zone them. Obviously when I simp over these guys a relationship is what I want because I desperately crave falling in love but when they tell me they like me back or ask me on a date or even act like they’re interested back I get severe panic attacks and sometimes they get so bad I get physically ill. I crave physical touch but I’m fucking terrified of it and I don’t know how to help myself or find the route of this issue. I’ve been going to therapy for like 6+ months and not even my therapist can figure it out. I’m 18 and I’ve never had my first kiss, gone on a date, or even really done much more than holding hands with a guy and even then I panic. It’s gotten so bad I’ve even considered the possibility that I’m asexual or something like that. I guess I’m looking for advice or even seeing if anyone has ever had this problem and how they dealt with it because I’m fed up with it and I really just want to experience love or even just be physical with someone without the dread. People that I’ve confided in about this in past have just told me “it’s normal! It’s just nervousness!!” But I’ve been Nervous before and this just isn’t the same

• July 29, 2023