My boyfriend loves me. I love him. But a part of me feels like we are just going through each day not actually being with each other. We live together so we are always with each other but not, if that makes sense. Why do relationships get like this? Where we become roommates instead of partners/lovers. We have sex regularly but after that we just kind of go on with are days. We only go on dates when i insist and those dates are usually movies. Does this happen to every relationship? After you have kids? I just miss the passion. How do you rekindle the passion?

when i was younger (like 7-12) my dad used to hit my sisters and my mom divorced him. he rarely did it to me but he would emotionally abuse me a lot. like being manipulative and narcissistic. i’ve been to a therapist ordered by the court about it but no one ever takes me seriously because “he never really hit me” it still impacts me a lot and i try not to think about it but when i do it really messes me up. recently my moms boyfriend had asked us to move in with him and my mom said yes. my dad used to move around a lot and so the town that we’re moving to he has lived in. it’s giving me severe ptsd and anxiety and i can’t control it but my mom is telling me to get over it because hes different. well she’s had boyfriends before and they weren’t different. i can’t help feeling guilty like i’m stopping them from being happy but i’m very unsure about it. her boyfriend hasn’t given me a reason to doubt him and he’s really good to me and my younger siblings but i still worth it won’t work out.

• August 4, 2023