I’ve been bsfs with a girl for 6 years and we were super close all through high school. But she got a bf and he was/is super toxic to her and me. For the last few months I’ve been avoiding seeing her because I don’t want to deal with them always fighting. He treats me horribly and is almost always the reason her and I fight. Recently she made it known she’s looking for new friends and I’m relieved. I can’t handle it anymore. I just had a party and reluctantly invited him too and the whole time he called me stupid infront of everyone. I love her to death but Ik she’d pick him over me, and I’m okay with that. I wish she just wasn’t my only friend. What should I do? I can’t handle the mental exhaustion but I don’t want to let her go.. but it seems like she’s ready to let me go

I been thinking real hard about even relaying these awful things about the person that I have admired the most, the person I have respected and revered my whole life but that now, has completely backstabbed me in the worst way possible. A few years ago, a scandal broke in my political family involving my mother. As you can imagine, it nearly broke my marriage and tore my husband’s family apart. My sister in law found my father in law and my mom talking on social media. The worst part of it, when I was confronted, I was accused of knowing about the whole affair and made it looked like I was an accomplice to the whole ordeal. When I had absolutely no clue to such a disgusting mess. I don’t know what neither of them were trying to accomplish and now, I’m the black sheep of the family. No one talks to me. While my father in law is still loved and honored. My mother the home wrecker and I pay the sins of her ordeals. She never once has said I’m sorry. Never! In her head, I’m better off without that side of the family. But it’s not about that; why did she do this to me? Why my father in law? Among so many men? Why him! I guess I’m just looking for an explanation and I know I will never get it from her. Because she just cannot accept she did anything wrong. I wish I could get her version because as of now, I only know everyone else’s but her’s. I always thought I didn’t need to hear her side because it’s not my place to question her, but I have kids who now have to suffer for her sins as well. I don’t think it’s fair to them either. I guess the damage is done as well and the past is the past. I won’t get nothing accomplished but I just want an acknowledgment from her part that she messed up.

• August 12, 2023