I don’t know what to feel honestly, I have this friend that I grew up with and she was the best person ever. Over time we would tend to form a somewhat close friendship and we both started getting feeling for each other, but I never really tried to advance since I didn’t want to hurt the friendship. Over the next 4 years I saw her slowly begin to drift off, so I tell her about my feelings and she said that she wasn’t ready for a relationship. Half a year later she starts to date my best friend and apparently they had been talking for a while now, at least a couple years by then, so I’m mad at myself for not taking the chance when I could. I do wish for success in their relationship, but I still have mixed feelings when I sit with her alone sometimes.

I been thinking real hard about even relaying these awful things about the person that I have admired the most, the person I have respected and revered my whole life but that now, has completely backstabbed me in the worst way possible. A few years ago, a scandal broke in my political family involving my mother. As you can imagine, it nearly broke my marriage and tore my husband’s family apart. My sister in law found my father in law and my mom talking on social media. The worst part of it, when I was confronted, I was accused of knowing about the whole affair and made it looked like I was an accomplice to the whole ordeal. When I had absolutely no clue to such a disgusting mess. I don’t know what neither of them were trying to accomplish and now, I’m the black sheep of the family. No one talks to me. While my father in law is still loved and honored. My mother the home wrecker and I pay the sins of her ordeals. She never once has said I’m sorry. Never! In her head, I’m better off without that side of the family. But it’s not about that; why did she do this to me? Why my father in law? Among so many men? Why him! I guess I’m just looking for an explanation and I know I will never get it from her. Because she just cannot accept she did anything wrong. I wish I could get her version because as of now, I only know everyone else’s but her’s. I always thought I didn’t need to hear her side because it’s not my place to question her, but I have kids who now have to suffer for her sins as well. I don’t think it’s fair to them either. I guess the damage is done as well and the past is the past. I won’t get nothing accomplished but I just want an acknowledgment from her part that she messed up.

• August 12, 2023