At around a year into my relationship with my current girlfriend, we had a lot of issues. She was super controlling and jealous, and we would get into screaming matches with each other. I knew I should have left, but I loved her so much and she had saved me from a bad home situation. Her sister had picked up on our fighting, and consoled me whenever she would break up with me over and over and over again. One day, my girlfriend ended up slamming my head into the wall of our bedroom after I didn’t text her back during my shift at work, and she got in her car and left. I was packing my things because she told me she wanted me gone by the time she got back, and her sister came to check up on me. I had realized I developed feelings for her sweet, funny younger (by one year) sister as she took a wet cloth and cleaned the blood from my lip. We got intimate that day. By the time my girlfriend had gotten back, she apologized for everything and begged me to stay, and I did. Her sister completely cut me off after that, and to this day our relationship isn’t near as close as we used to be. I regret what I’ve done, but I still think about her every day, even now as I’m engaged to my girlfriend/ fiancé. I have no idea what I’m supposed to do, I’m 5 years in and I’m so afraid to come out with the truth to my fiancé and her family, should I even do it at this point? My girlfriend and I had quit fighting years ago, but I feel like I’m simultaneously in love with both of them

I been thinking real hard about even relaying these awful things about the person that I have admired the most, the person I have respected and revered my whole life but that now, has completely backstabbed me in the worst way possible. A few years ago, a scandal broke in my political family involving my mother. As you can imagine, it nearly broke my marriage and tore my husband’s family apart. My sister in law found my father in law and my mom talking on social media. The worst part of it, when I was confronted, I was accused of knowing about the whole affair and made it looked like I was an accomplice to the whole ordeal. When I had absolutely no clue to such a disgusting mess. I don’t know what neither of them were trying to accomplish and now, I’m the black sheep of the family. No one talks to me. While my father in law is still loved and honored. My mother the home wrecker and I pay the sins of her ordeals. She never once has said I’m sorry. Never! In her head, I’m better off without that side of the family. But it’s not about that; why did she do this to me? Why my father in law? Among so many men? Why him! I guess I’m just looking for an explanation and I know I will never get it from her. Because she just cannot accept she did anything wrong. I wish I could get her version because as of now, I only know everyone else’s but her’s. I always thought I didn’t need to hear her side because it’s not my place to question her, but I have kids who now have to suffer for her sins as well. I don’t think it’s fair to them either. I guess the damage is done as well and the past is the past. I won’t get nothing accomplished but I just want an acknowledgment from her part that she messed up.

• August 12, 2023