I’ve been dating a really sweet guy for a few months now. He really loves me, and he’s very good to me, and I really thought I loved him and was attracted to him. The further into our relationship I get, the more I have to think about it. I feel like I could have a stable and happy relationship with him, but I’m not really attracted to him. He’s very nice, and there’s nothing wrong, I just don’t feel a spark or passion- there’s another guy I see at school, and I know it’s wrong, but he’s so attractive to me and I don’t know what to do about it. I’m happy with my boyfriend and he loves me, and I don’t think I’d be happy with the other guy at all. I don’t know what to do anymore, and I feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend for continuing to be with him, but I think breaking up would break my heart and his. I just don’t know if I’ll ever be very attracted to him

when i was younger (like 7-12) my dad used to hit my sisters and my mom divorced him. he rarely did it to me but he would emotionally abuse me a lot. like being manipulative and narcissistic. i’ve been to a therapist ordered by the court about it but no one ever takes me seriously because “he never really hit me” it still impacts me a lot and i try not to think about it but when i do it really messes me up. recently my moms boyfriend had asked us to move in with him and my mom said yes. my dad used to move around a lot and so the town that we’re moving to he has lived in. it’s giving me severe ptsd and anxiety and i can’t control it but my mom is telling me to get over it because hes different. well she’s had boyfriends before and they weren’t different. i can’t help feeling guilty like i’m stopping them from being happy but i’m very unsure about it. her boyfriend hasn’t given me a reason to doubt him and he’s really good to me and my younger siblings but i still worth it won’t work out.

• August 4, 2023