so i have this theory that i’m never gonna get married, but it’s going to be by choice. ever since i was old enough to comprehend relationships, marriage, and divorce, i’ve had this thought. what’s the point of getting married, like actually. other then the fact that your family watches you share a love with someone, and you have a legal document that proves that you love that person.. in my opinion a document doesn’t prove anything. think about it, everyone’s gonna lie, cheat, and treat you horrible, even if you’re married to them. marriage doesn’t stop all that. but it does make it harder to get out. you have to go through divorce, go to court, get a lawyer, and even pay. what if my spouse was abusing me, or cheating on me, and i decided to leave. if i wanted to fully let them go, i would have to go through all that just to be free from them. in my opinion i’d rather just have promise rings and maybe like a little party that celebrates us, instead of a big wedding. this could be my commitment issues talking, but i genuinely don’t think i want to get married. now someone tell me reasons i should look at this differently and give me some other points of view :)

I fell in love with a guy for 5 years of my life. No matter how much time we were away from each other I couldn’t forget him or move on from him. 2 years ago I started to date someone else and had stoped talking to the other guy who we will call Jacob. For so long I thought that I had stoped loving Jacob yet not once did he leave my mind. He was always in my heart and was such an important person. Many people ask why I didn’t just stay with him. The truth is that he never told me how he truly felt. He never spoke his mind to me. He was always quiet and refused to tell me how he felt about me. In a way I know he loved me too. I just don’t think he wanted to be an open person because he was never open with anyone at all. We weren’t meant to be and this past summer I left my relationship to try and be with Jacob but he was hurting me by staying silent and not telling me if he wanted to be with me. He said he did but he wasn’t open on his feelings and as much as I think he did love me I also think that he was never gonna fight for me or open up to me. I wish it was different. He was the only person I will ever have such a strong connection and bond with. After two months of trying to work something out with him again. It failed. I felt like he wanted the whole world but me. I love him I really do. I went back to the guy I was dating because I felt it was unfair to leave such a great guy for something that wasn’t gonna work out. However I truly love Jacob and yes I love my boyfriend too but Jacob will always be a piece of my life and soul. I don’t know how to let Jacob go. At nights I miss him a lot and I need to constantly remind myself that I need to let him go. I just wanna forget him and move in. I wish it was easy. I just wanna feel happiness and no longer pain from a love that was too good to be true.

• July 30, 2023